Why You Should Stop Taking Relationship Advice From the Wrong People

Every day, I speak with men and women who are desperate to save their marriages.

And one of the biggest obstacles I see isn’t just disconnection with their spouse — it’s the bad advice they’re consuming online and from well-meaning friends.

Because let’s be honest: the internet is overflowing with people giving relationship advice who have never turned a marriage around, never walked through the fire of separation, never rebuilt love from the ground up. Yet their words stick in your head, stir up your fears, and suddenly you’re ready to act on something that could actually make things worse.

You’ve probably seen it yourself:

A 20-year-old on TikTok dishing out “expert” marriage tips.

Viral posts telling you to “just leave” when things get hard.

Friends insisting you need to “teach him a lesson” or “put her in her place.”

Here’s the truth: most of these voices don’t have the lived experience, the training, or the professional background to guide you. The advice might sound bold, even empowering in the moment, but if I had followed the advice my friends gave me during my separation? I’d be divorced right now.

Marriage isn’t theoretical. It’s not a cute soundbite or a hashtag. It’s raw, messy, beautiful, and demanding.

When you take advice, you want to make sure it’s from someone who has:

Lived through the fire. I’m not speaking to you as someone who’s never struggled — my own marriage collapsed after four children in five years, stress, grief, and disconnection. My husband moved out. And we rebuilt from the ground up.

Professional expertise. I’ve spent years studying psychology, working in behavior units, conflict resolution, and yes — even prisons. I coach hundreds of men and women through my programs every single year.

Perspective. Wisdom doesn’t come from theory alone. It comes from walking through grief, loss, repair, and transformation.

That’s why I tell my clients: be discerning. You wouldn’t let your kids binge-watch YouTube with no filter, right? So why would you let your own mind absorb random relationship advice without checking the source?

Here’s something most people don’t realize: your brain is a sponge. Every piece of advice you consume gets absorbed, filtered, and added to your internal feedback loop. Then that loop drives your thoughts, emotions, and actions.

If you’re absorbing reactive, low-quality advice, you’ll make reactive, low-quality choices.

That’s why discernment matters. Be intentional about what you allow in — because what you consume shapes how you show up in your marriage.

Now here’s the twist: even with all my experience, degrees, and clients, I tell people this — you are the expert in your own life.

At the end of the day, no one knows you or your spouse better than you do. Not me, not your best friend, not the internet. The best coaching and guidance can only point you back to your own wisdom, your own intuition, and your own truth.

Audit your inputs. Notice where you’re getting relationship advice. Is it TikTok? Your single best friend? Or a mentor who’s walked the road before you?

Filter with discernment. Ask: has this person done what I want to do? Do they have experience turning marriages around?

Trust your intuition. Take advice as input, but don’t hand over your authority. Test everything against your own inner knowing.

Stop outsourcing decisions. Friends and family may love you, but their advice is often reactive. Don’t let someone else’s fear determine your future.

The wrong advice can keep you stuck, make you reactive, or push you closer to divorce. The right guidance empowers you to grow, to heal, and to take action that actually shifts your relationship.

Be discerning. Protect your mind the way you’d protect your child’s. And always, always remember: your marriage is unique. Don’t let someone with no stake in it dictate your next move.

If your relationship is hanging by a thread and you’re tired of conflicting advice that leaves you more confused, I’d love to help. Inside my Relationship Miracle Method and in my VIP one-on-one coaching, I guide you with tools that actually work — because I’ve lived it, and I’ve helped hundreds of men and women do the same.

👉 Book a call today and let’s cut through the noise. It’s time to get clarity, confidence, and a real plan for turning your marriage around.